At least he's admitted he doesn't know how to cope.  He still hasn't gotten the help I know he'll need but I think he'll get it when it's time.  I was amazed the other day when he admitted to me that his upbringing didn't prepare him for having a family that cared about each other and supported one another.

At least my wife and her brother are getting along very well.  All of them know what is coming but each of them deal with the grief in such drastically different ways.  My wife is concerned that her mother will suffer even more before passing and will get to a point where she can't be coherent.

The only joy I've found in 2008 is my sons.  They are just getting better and better.  During vacation last month we took the kids camping on the outer Cape.  We got a Oversand sticker and drove out to Hatches Harbor on Race Point just about every day.   I had more fun playing with the kids in the sand and water that I've had in a long time.  It was awesome seeing the boys become so comfortable in the water.  They swam in water over their heads, jumped off boats and body surfed the waves.  I'm now looking into getting a boat for next summer so I can take the kids gunkholing around the Cape.

It's barely September and I'm already looking forward to next year.  My mother in laws pain should be over by then and I can begin helping my wife move beyond 2008.